tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post8543568626498273753..comments2024-03-16T03:17:20.763-04:00Comments on GORGEOUS SHINY THINGS: the nitty grittyDanika Herrickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03718254010088732587noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-32532104682513265972018-01-20T12:23:56.912-05:002018-01-20T12:23:56.912-05:00I have always loved you and your honesty and this ...I have always loved you and your honesty and this post just makes me love you more! (Too creepy? ��) Seriously though, do what’s best for you! Good for you for learning how to say no and putting your own mental health and family first! Obviously I’m stoked you’re back on here but I’m hoping you’re okay doing it on your terms! We’ve got your back! Serretta Barlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16534214981021354344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-3068862209302391462017-07-02T00:20:25.465-04:002017-07-02T00:20:25.465-04:00From a painter, an artisan, reader, a writer, a do...From a painter, an artisan, reader, a writer, a dog rescuer, a mother, a sister, a 71 year old grandmother, etc, etc, etc...are you getting the picture? And by the way, a woman diagnosed as an adult with ADHD. Please don't beat yourself up. I came to understand that the 'defects' in my person are one of the main reasons I see the world as an explosion of color, form, and the opportunity to express my creative heart. I suspect you are the same. Help your son to embrace his 'gift' by example and with joy as you accept and embrace your own. Judith Johnson Nigh, kipperkey@icloud.com<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08513915989982606146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-86478750502286767582016-08-08T05:21:32.874-04:002016-08-08T05:21:32.874-04:00I just found this blog. Assuming since its been a ...I just found this blog. Assuming since its been a year or more since this last post that you haven't yet found a way to get back to it... And that's FINE.<br />I ran a successful political blog for five years and burned out, hard. My followers mostly found me again on Facebook and often try to encourage me to go back to blogging... But it just doesn't fit my life now. Maybe someday, but not now. <br />Point being (oh, and I'm also on the spectrum - Aspergers), you owe no one but you and your family. Do what works, when it works. <br />I hope you return... But if you don't, I hope you're living well and happy. Maryscott OConnorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05209511764722025194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-81095567928678995772016-07-25T15:52:44.534-04:002016-07-25T15:52:44.534-04:00You're a favorite of mine and still very inspi...You're a favorite of mine and still very inspiring to me! I hope you and yours are having fun, creative and taking time to breath!Teenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-35529551787063876402016-06-07T13:04:21.446-04:002016-06-07T13:04:21.446-04:00Life's dirty secret for women: Ain't such...Life's dirty secret for women: Ain't such a thing as balance! I think the best we can strive for is have family time each day. For us it was dinner--swimming/ball etc on weekends. We did not try to stuff too many activities in. We were always home with our kids on the weekend. No babysitters (maybe 3x). Instead of cultivating balance, cultivate mindfulness. BE with whomever you are with (kids, husband, work)and do not be distracted by other thoughts. This practice will vastly improve the quality of the limited time. I see another commenter has stated that she had to cover for working moms...well, not once did anyone have to cover for me. (IN reality no one could given my position). In general enabling bad behavior by 'covering' can only lead to being taken advantage of and all of the attendant feelings. I'm the parent of adult children now. Man, do I love saying that! My kids grew up to have a good work ethic; are compassionate toward others; and are independent. But you have additional challenges with your child. I too can work from home...it is always there. Sigh...Hope youv'e come to tenuous grips at the very least. I appreciated seeing your painted chair post...and they look fabulous painted!Leisa♠https://www.blogger.com/profile/10237875938400587600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-81320932746338141362016-02-13T03:51:37.074-05:002016-02-13T03:51:37.074-05:00Love you! I think your are due some down time....c...Love you! I think your are due some down time....change is good. ...remember those magazine pages we stuck all over our house at 123? Well that can mean many things. Color...design...ideas...perspectives..change is good babe xoxoxoxohilaryfulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15410836891223607359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-72200340226392393032016-01-18T21:11:22.266-05:002016-01-18T21:11:22.266-05:00Danika - I just found your blog. It's AWESOME...Danika - I just found your blog. It's AWESOME! Thanks for sharing so honestly. We think we can do it all and find ourselves burned out, overwhelmed and feeling like we just can't summit that mountain. I am learning that too in my life. Working full-time at a very demanding corporate day job and running a full-time staging business for the past 8 years. Taking a break is good for the soul and a good reminder for all of us trying to 'do it all' - it's sometimes just not worth the drain physically but mostly emotionally. Sending you my best!!!! Thanks!<br />Barbara from NCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-56368597822824358372015-11-23T13:17:51.993-05:002015-11-23T13:17:51.993-05:00I had taken your blog off my regular rotation beca...I had taken your blog off my regular rotation because of lack of posts. (No big deal, everybody has dry periods.) I decided to check in again because I've gotten some great holiday inspiration from your work before. (That gold grasscloth room is still one of the most amazing things I've ever seen on a blog. I covered my former apartment's dining alcove in dollar store wallpaper based off of it and all my Thanksgiving/Christmas guests were blown away.) All that to say, I think there's a lot of us who are happy to take what you're willing to share, when you're willing to share it. No pressure.<br /><br />Also, while ADD doesn't run in my family, depression and compulsion does. I've watched my mom struggle with it my whole life. I don't feel damaged by seeing her struggle. It's made me more compassionate and aware with myself and others. Please be kind to yourself and be well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01477911189003942532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-19713835277330308852015-10-13T20:21:26.838-04:002015-10-13T20:21:26.838-04:00Good for you. I'd rather see fewer but meaning...Good for you. I'd rather see fewer but meaningful and interesting posts than filler. And besides, your family and your health are very important. Take care of them first as the blog can wait.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-34831600529595706342015-09-28T19:01:13.291-04:002015-09-28T19:01:13.291-04:00First of all, you are a creative BEAST and I canno...First of all, you are a creative BEAST and I cannot even comprehend your energy level. I remember when you turned laminate counters into "Carrera marble" and I was like, "WHAT?!" As far as the home-vs-work debate goes, I kind of avoid extremes like "strangers raising my children" because unless you're turning them over to someone you don't know 24/7, that seems a bit dramatic, no? We're all doing our best and some days it will be perfect, and most days it will be kind of a mess, and that's just the way it is. In the meantime, I can't wait to see what you will do next. Thanks for your honesty and willingness to pull back the shroud of blogger perfection. I'm a huge fan.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04429304709061402946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-10961693738978683132015-09-19T23:44:43.927-04:002015-09-19T23:44:43.927-04:00Brave woman, take your time and find your balance....Brave woman, take your time and find your balance. We're here, rooting for you.<br />lonelybakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08467340853508457440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-63387317030000895152015-09-15T12:01:51.247-04:002015-09-15T12:01:51.247-04:00This was your best blog post ever!! Thanks for be...This was your best blog post ever!! Thanks for being so real. None of us can do it all ADD or not. Looking forward to whatever and whenever you post. Hugs!Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11657813110377917661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-84238799814213524232015-09-13T21:21:27.793-04:002015-09-13T21:21:27.793-04:00I just commented a minute ago but will add I think...I just commented a minute ago but will add I think you were doing the hardest thing of all - being self employed at home. I'm an older mother of young children (I'm 54 with 12 year old identical twins - not Ivf) As a single woman working in nyc for most of my career prior to getting married I was so angry and frustrated as over and over again I watched and was expected to cover for my female co workers (several different jobs so different women) who were working mothers (lying for them that they were at business meetings when they were at doctor,etc. ). Their husbands were so proud for how hard they were working as they were always out of the house. The office thought they were such great mothers - I watched them play their husbands off their bosses. And I had to pick up the pieces as a single woman (frequently canceling a date to take a meeting). I was the one working hard doing multiple jobs supporting my fellow women! Ha! You are honest and also, working from home, can't play anyone off anyone else. And that's the truth of the matter. Nobody can do it all so don't beat yourself up. You are just honest. It's not your ADD or whatever.<br /><br />And just FYI they say it's way more important to be around as your children get older so relax. All any child Wants is their mommy and daddy anyway. <br />Please don't publish this as it will make women mad. Not PC but I don't particularly give a rat's ass. This is just for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-21514465229280403612015-09-13T21:16:03.736-04:002015-09-13T21:16:03.736-04:00I just commented a minute ago but will add I think...I just commented a minute ago but will add I think you were doing the hardest thing of all - being self employed at home. I'm an older mother of young children (I'm 54 with 12 year old identical twins - not Ivf) As a single woman working in nyc for most of my career prior to getting married I was so angry and frustrated as over and over again I watched and was expected to cover for my female co workers (several different jobs so different women) who were working mothers (lying for them that they were at business meetings when they were at doctor,etc. ). Their husbands were so proud for how hard they were working as they were always out of the house. The office thought they were such great mothers - I watched them play their husbands off their bosses. And I had to pick up the pieces as a single woman (frequently canceling a date to take a meeting). I was the one working hard doing multiple jobs supporting my fellow women! Ha! You are honest and also, working from home, can't play anyone off anyone else. And that's the truth of the matter. Nobody can do it all so don't beat yourself up. You are just honest. It's not your ADD or whatever.<br /><br />And just FYI they say it's way more important to be around as your children get older so relax. All any child Wants is their mommy and daddy anyway. ��<br />Please don't publish this as it will make women mad. Not PC but I don't particularly give a rat's ass. This is just for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-69834361762797845242015-09-13T20:38:23.224-04:002015-09-13T20:38:23.224-04:00Super honest. I've been thinking I want to get...Super honest. I've been thinking I want to get back into the work force but every time i think about it one of my children seems to get sick. Like now. I don't want some stranger raising my children so I've stayed home. I guess that's the right decision. I don't believe in quality time it's just being there all the boring time that counts I think. None of us can have it all and it's such a bummer the women's movement said we could. or made us think we should and are losers and boring if we can't do it. Anyway, my girls are coughing...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-75996553845126665752015-09-04T07:54:58.794-04:002015-09-04T07:54:58.794-04:00Love ya always! xox
Love ya always! xox<br />myoverlayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16661485688280338676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-8227989355369261272015-08-27T15:35:35.900-04:002015-08-27T15:35:35.900-04:00Danika - Just checking in. That is so great that y...Danika - Just checking in. That is so great that you are taking a break to recharge and reset. I think we all need it. I run the same risk of spreading myself too thin and thinking I can do it all. Good luck with everything!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13694126643009013441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-25312721406917679262015-08-23T20:05:11.553-04:002015-08-23T20:05:11.553-04:00I was thinking "welcome back," but this ...I was thinking "welcome back," but this is the thing about blogs: they are ever changing, as are we, and you never really left. Post when you want, about whatever you want, if it works. I think this post just goes to show that your readers (jncluding me!) will still be there. I for one am glad to see you here again, and wish you luck in the never-ending struggle to find that unicorn: "balance".heather (love your space)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-21903823164844871612015-08-23T17:16:29.867-04:002015-08-23T17:16:29.867-04:00I echo the many kind and thoughtful sentiments exp...I echo the many kind and thoughtful sentiments expressed above... You are a wonderful creative force, and it is nice to know you are also human. :). Thank you for voicing what so many of us are going through as mothers, entrepeneurs, designers, and creative people. It is hard, it is impossible to really do it 'all' without something dropping away. I've missed your wit, humor, and gorgeous creativity in motion. I'll look forward to whatever you choose to share going forward. Take care of yourself, your family, and your creative soul and spirit! Xxdanamerrillstylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14663004556613724441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-10004170698260311942015-08-22T08:01:51.695-04:002015-08-22T08:01:51.695-04:00I've always thought you are insanely talented,...I've always thought you are insanely talented, and now I have even more reason to love you. In this world of perfect images capsulated in Instagram posts and Pinterest pins, I value what is real, authentic, and honest even more. Thanks so much for sharing your genius with all of us, to whatever extent your life circumstances and comfort allow. The blog world and Internet are a better place because you are on them! Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14681067383314103041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-58815191289650890532015-08-22T07:45:29.650-04:002015-08-22T07:45:29.650-04:00Thank you for your honesty. It's so refreshing...Thank you for your honesty. It's so refreshing. I was a reader before and I'll be a reader again. No matter what, it is hard to balance kids, a husband, a blog, a job, and whatever else is going on in life. I tell people it's not so much a balancing act as it is a juggling act. I'm trying to keep all the balls in the air and while some are soaring high, the others are falling all over the ground.Juliehttp://www.thedailyjulie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-70472810177437294262015-08-21T14:47:50.695-04:002015-08-21T14:47:50.695-04:00Thanks for your honesty! It's all really, real...Thanks for your honesty! It's all really, really hard.<br />I do miss your fun/crazy posts, and look forward to whatever lies ahead for you. (But whatever you do, PLEASE show us your kitchen when it is finished!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11402930432577161870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-46064964317236252302015-08-21T11:03:24.855-04:002015-08-21T11:03:24.855-04:00It's was really nice to read your post. Glad t...It's was really nice to read your post. Glad that you are figuring a way through the madness that is motherhood and sharing it with us all, honesty is something that is always appreciated. <br />Good luck with getting the balance right for you and your family. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-12571720553561643102015-08-20T12:57:56.745-04:002015-08-20T12:57:56.745-04:00I'm happy to see you! Yours has always been on...I'm happy to see you! Yours has always been one of my favorite blogs. Best of luck to you in whatever you choose to do. nigelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00634067837300912424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924563841080619298.post-75300271642215627662015-08-20T08:37:57.374-04:002015-08-20T08:37:57.374-04:00I hear ya lady. Oh do I. This past year has been a...I hear ya lady. Oh do I. This past year has been a huge struggle for me as well, I took a huge step back to refocus.<br /><br /> I don't think I ever recovered from the snow this February. My daughter is starting kindergarten and my son is 3, they were so used to me just staring at my laptop all day it became a very sore spot with my husband "when are you getting off the computer?" 'But, I am trying to work?" Something had to give.<br /><br />Design will always be there, new fads will come and go. You can give your self permission to take a break and just focus on family (and yourself) and not feel guilty. When you 'feel' it again, you'll know. <br /><br />I should start a North Shore Designers support group, where we all can get together with some wine and vent. xo<br /><br />-beckyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04922595413181171174noreply@blogger.com